
Sometimes when I get really mad at someone or if they offend me, I decide right then and there that I will never talk to that person again. Generally, my resolve dissolves when I realize it is not practical to never speak to my brother or my cat again, e.g. I stay mad for a while, hold a grudge for longer, and then generally let it go. One of the things that I neither like nor understand about myself is that I'm not terribly forgiving. I can forgive small infractions and those things that people do because they're human -- especially if whatever it is doesn't really affect me all that much. But when I feel offended, betrayed, or wounded on a more profound level, all bets are off.
Rather than turn this blog into a confessional, I think I'll just write what I intended to write. I read an article about the lo
vely state of Utah and its anti-gay legislature/majority populace. And the newspaper that published a full-page ad comparing the gays to druggies and hookers (huh?) [I haven't seen the ad yet]. Then I started to wonder what the heck is wrong with people. Then I wondered if maybe there really IS something wrong with being gay and that's why the people are throwing the Lord's smiting around. [Seriously, Utah. Maybe if you could just explain why you hate the gays so much, I could figure out if maybe I should add 'being gay' to my reasons for the self-loathing I already do. The least you could do, Utah, is keep the hatred to yourself. California loves the gays. Don't you watch T.V.?]Then I got mad.
Then I decided I'm never going to Utah again, ever.
Even though it's pretty. Even though it's on the way to Colorado where my family lives. (Maybe if you're from Utah, and you're reading this, you could lobby your legislature to split the state into two so that the pretty, southern parts of the state were still available to reasonable people.)

7 comments:
Were we separated at birth? Of course I would be the evil twin. I share the same sentiments you do about getting mad and offended...except I tend to get in to a big fight inside my head, all alone, with the person I am having the conflict with...needless to say, I work myself into a messy lather and the other person has no idea what happened. some couch time may be needed. *sigh*
Reading this caused a big feeling of sadness mixed with frustration and some shenpa to well up in my chest.
I hope your "never going back" resolution is helpful for you to hold on to. Frankly I don't care what people boycott, only that it doesn't affect their growth.
Fwiw, I have plenty of issues with Utah as well. However, there is too much good and connection here as well for me. Ah, I love dissonance, even when it hurts.
JMR: Let me save you some time: I've had many many hours "on the couch" and I'm still a nutcase. :)
Adam: I don't know about my growth and whether I'm impeding it by being mad at Utah. Looks to me like it's 1) misplaced focus of anger and 2) expressing it is probably good for me. Perhaps when I find somewhere else to focus the anger, I'll cross the state line again. We'll see. . .
Well, after seeing that add I'm feeling some anger too. :)
I guess I'll just have to visit Sacto more often! :-)
Y'all are welcome in these parts any time! Wine and tango for all!
I am sorry for my state.
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